As You Wish

Pandora

Me: You don’t know me! Do you even go to this school?

Pandora: Oh yea? *plays legend of Zelda medley in string quartet*

Me: ….

Pandora: Yeah that’s right bitch

Pandora:1   Henry:0

Give me the strength

to understand the illogical, because as it stands currently, these people are going to be the death of me.

That was the best Valentine’s day in recent memory

And it didn’t involve romance at all o.O. Hmmmm….

I know you’re not supposed to read Youtube comments

But after watching Jodi Foster’s beautiful lifetime achievement speech, I feel the need to log some of my feelings. This is a response to a specific comment that I’ve seen and heard many times, and in the past I’ve let it slide, but I really don’t know what is different about this time.

The comment was such that heterosexuals don’t feel the need to announce their heterosexuality while homosexuals want to air out their dirty laundry to everyone. There are just so many things wrong about this sentiment that I do not really know where to begin.

First and foremost, people feel the need to come out because they must. People do not do it to make heterosexuals feel uncomfortable, or to push their private lives on people. There is a social norm imposed on people because the world seems to focus on an aspect that really shouldn’t matter. The norm is that people are inherently heterosexual and anything else should be considered unhealthy or immoral. Sexual orientation is associated with characteristics that are stereotyped, and many of these biases are based on a lack of education or the generalization of a group based on the individual.

But why not take a positive spin on coming out? A person who comes out is not announcing to the world that he or she is different, but that he or she is the same. They are the same as they were before and they are the same as anyone around them. They may even break the stereotype, and honestly, just doing that gives other people hope and courage. It may dispel fears or self-hated in others.

There are aspects of being different that everyone feels, and most everyone has something about themselves that causes them pain. Well, because of how our society operates, homosexuality is an additional something that people feel they must keep inside; the fear that people might judge you differently if they find out, or that you will be unjustly categorized for something that you can’t control. When someone is brave enough to reveal their insecurity, it gives them the opportunity to let go of the self-hate (which, in my honest opinion, can be much worse that what anyone else could ever do to you). I don’t really have words to express how wrong it is to tell someone that they should not have the ability to do this.

And can I just say that people indirectly announce their heterosexuality all of the time? When people verbally, mentally, or indirectly attack homosexuals, they are announcing to the world that they are not part of “that” group (which may or may not be true, but that is a whole other can of worms) and that to be part of “that” group is contemptible. They are announcing the the world that they are in the right, and that being anything else is inherently wrong.

So yes. People may feel the need to come out to the public in situations that you may deem inappropriate, and them doing so may bother you, but look deep down inside. Does this change how you go about your every day life? If it helps them feel better about themselves and subsequently helps countless others not hate themselves in that moment, isn’t that enough reason to allow it?

I have another rant in me somewhere about all the crap I and others have taken for bisexuality, but I can’t seem to muster the energy. So I guess that’s going to be my high horse rant.

Life is terrifying

It is beautiful in so many ways, yet it has a horrible tendency to screw you over when you least expect it. Can’t/don’t want to have to explain it all, but I just don’t know what to do. There is this ache in my chest that I can only describe as worry and I just have so much to do that I cannot/do not have the time for this.

I really don’t know what to do…